The Respect Dare Want to avoid an argument? When you think there's a disagreement starting, repeat back to your hub what you think he meant..."So if I understand you correctly, you feel angry when we start talking about money?" if "Yes," then find out how you can speak so he can hear you ..."Is there a way I could bring up the issues so we can work through that? I want to stop making you defensive - can you help me with that?"