The Respect Dare Not sure why, but husbands aren't like our sisters, mothers or girlfriends, no matter how much we want him to be! Want something? ASK. "This is the part where you kiss me passionately..." :) "I don't have time tonight to fill the car up with gas and the kids need stuff for lunch - will you run to the store and gas up the van for me, please?" Simple. Direct...to the point. It's respectful.