Friday, August 13, 2010

Too Much Skin

Recently God has been dealing with about this issue.  I just happened to come across this chapter in a book I'm reading.  "The Respect Dare."  It's sad that women are showing more and more skin.  It's almost a competition with women who can get the most sexual attention.  Women feel the presure.  We as women need to be more aware of how men are programed by God, and how real their struggles are.  I myself have struggled in this area, and God has been speaking to me about it.  Very eye opening.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 I recently a study in a book that showed 98% of men who see a visually attractive woman are well aware of her presence to the extent that they think about her repeatedly, even if they don't want to do so. 

"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body."



Proverbs: 8:22
Like a gold ring in a pig's snout it is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.

Men are more visual than women and struggle in ways that most women cannot even imagine.  The magazines in a supermarket checkout line can be a temptation mine field for a man trying to keep his eyes off of other women and his thoughts only of his own wife.  We can do much for the men around us if we will but choose our clothing a little more carefully.
A Daughters Story...
Claire watched as her husband's eyes strayed from full engagement in conversation with her, to repeated glancing to the left, at someone behind her.  "who are you looking at?" she asked him.  Paul immediately stammered a bit and finally replied, "I can't help it, honey, but we neeed to move.  That woman who just came in is about half-dressed and I can't keep from looking at her."
Claire and Paul switched places in the family room of their friends' home, and she saw exactly what he meant.  Across the room, and being noticed by nearly everyone at the company party, was Ronnie.  She was a new addition to the staff, and made a habit of wearing short skirts and low-cut blouses; but her attire tonight took the cake.  The sleeveless little black dress barely covered the essentials and even though it was December, more of her skin was showing than was covered.
Claire asked him, "How do you handle working with her every day?"
Paul relplied, "I stay away from her as much as possible and if I need to, I refocus on pictures of you and the kids."
Claire appreciated the candor with which Paul communicated the truth to her.  While she didn't understand by experience her husband's visual struggles, it certainly motivated her to keep herself fit.  She wanted to be sure she was the most affirming and positve woman her husband would encounter on any given day.  The thought of Ronnie in Paul's office, vying for attention also made her a little angry.
Bottom Line:  We meed tp be respectful of other womens's husbands in the way we dress.  Make it easy on your husband's friends and co-workers by dressing conservatively and saving the glamour for hubby!

So What about you?
1. How has our culture convinced women that being sex objects is a good, beautiful thing?

2.  What's wrong with this?

3.  How does it negatively affect our daughters and young women?

4.  How does it negatively affect us?

6.  In general, most men struggle with visual images and sexual thoughts when exposed to cleavage, short skirts, etc.  Men will also say that when watching a presentation given by a provocatively dressed woman, they aren't listening to what she's saying, but rather thinking about her body or what it's like to have sex with her.   How do you feel about that?  Would you rather have men hearing what you have said or have them thinking sexual thoughts about you?

TODAYS YOUR DARE IS RELATIVELY SIMPLE.  PRAYERFULLY SPEND 15 MINUTES GOING THROUGH YOUR CLOSIT.  CONSIDER WHAT YOUR CLOTHING IS COMMUNICATING ABOUT YOU AND HOW IT REPRESENTS YOUR HUSBAND AND FAMILY.
ARE THERE THINGS YOU NEED TO GET RID OF?  ARE THERE ITEMS THAT SHOULD BE RESERVED FOR TIME ALONE ONLY WITH YOUR HUSBAND

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